I am enough…

I am enough. If people read or don’t read what I write. I am enough. I am enough and my life matters like black lives matter. Whether I have the money I need or the job that I want. I am enough. If I am respected in the workplace or disrespected by inequalities. I am enough. If my hair is relaxed or in its natural state. Long, short, or none at all. I am enough. If I weigh more or less. I am enough. With blemishes or clarity of skin. I am enough. If a man sees me or if he looks beyond me. I am enough. Whether they are proud of me or they hate me. I am enough. If I’m married or single. I am enough. I was divinely created by God to be enough in this life. I am enough because I know who I am. I am confident. I am enough. It took me some time but I had to learn that I am in fact enough after moments of trying to prove my enoughness by using ineffective methods. It was draining and life taking but to know that I am enough and live in that is energizing and life giving. I am enough. You are enough.

Be Beautiful,

Katherine White

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This blog post was inspired by Oprah’s posed question…”What has taken you the longest lesson to learn?”

Everybody has the body to love…

When I vacation on the beach I often reflect and write. Connect with God and with nature. Plus I have a blast! On my last vacation I wasn’t at my lowest or even ideal weight but I decided some time ago to love myself consistently. When I’m up, down, long hair, big hair, no hair, etc. So I did. After I saw this photo, I posted it on social media and journaled. Define your own beauty. Don’t wait to be an expected standard of beauty , weight, height, or whatever. Improvement is great but don’t wait and miss out on how beautiful you are now.

 

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Be Beautiful,

Katherine White

Don’t waste thoughts on flaws…

I was standing in the mirror next to my colleague in a restaurant when I started to pick myself apart. I looked at my skin and I was still pleased with my complexion. I looked at my eyes. Then I looked down and noticed the grey cami under my red cardigan that did not match. Then noticed my love handles. While I would have liked to see less handles at that moment it was okay because of a few recent healthy lifestyle consistencies and results would be showing soon was what I was thinking. Then I made my way up to my hair which I recently decided to wear short and natural. I love it! However, old mindsets and negative defaults of insecurities attempted to push through my thoughts in a matter of seconds. To the point that I almost expressed negative thoughts to my colleague about myself. I was going to say that my hair is much curlier today. I wish that it was this way on yesterday but the humidity made it all crazy and flat. I need to trim it, curl it, shape it, color it, etc, etc, etc, blah, blah, blah! All of this was going through my mind within 30 seconds of looking in the mirror at the restaurant. Then before I could even begin to think of opening my mouth I glanced at her and I was reminded of her situation. She is seasoned in age, mother of several children, wife to a husband, and a new grandmother. Oh and she has breast cancer again. Yes. For the second time! She was actually on the way to receive her 5th cocktail of chemotherapy. So in the 30 seconds that I looked at all of these small nothingness of flaws in myself I was immediately reminded. Reminded to keep my thoughts focused on gratitude and being compassionate. I was reminded not to waste my thoughts on flaws in myself or others. She and I both stood in that same mirror. Me, with my short and natural hair that never curls the same and my love handles. Her, beautiful but forced by cancer to wear a wig after losing all of her hair due to chemo and dealing with poison running through her body just so that she can only hope to be well. In those 30 seconds I shifted my focus and made a decision to humble my thoughts and to admire her strength well over focusing on my small nothingness of flaws. Next time you attempt to pick yourself apart. Think about the circumstances of the person standing next to you. Choose gratitude and compassion. Don’t waste your thoughts on their flaws or yours…

Be Beautiful,

Katherine White

Prayers for my friend and colleague to be well and to kick cancer’s butt again…Amen

I will self-love me!

I wrote Little Girls and Their Ponytails to teach girls to love who they are. I also created the ponytails pageant and Beautiful and Wonderful Me Workshop for that same reason. Girls deserve to love who they are no matter what. Self-love is important. Girls need to know that we change. We grow, we get big, small, we have blemishes; we have up days, down days, natural days, make-up days, glamorous moments, and sweat pants hair in a ponytail or in a puff days. We have to love ourselves on EVERY one of those days. I wrote this story because I have looked in the mirror a time or two wondering what someone else would think if I wore this or changed my hair like that. I spent a bit of time with the oppression of those insecurities and I don’t want girls to spend as much time in that space. So I teach self-love but first I decided to love me on all of my days and in all of my ways. Changing, nipping, tucking, straightening, or pulling still won’t be good enough for those with a skewed perspective of beauty. So no matter what changes or does not change…I will self-love me!

Be Beautiful,

Katherine White

2yrs ago book signing