5 years ago I was laid off from a corporate job and I am glad about it. Well, now I am. To be honest; the transition of losing a job, fear of financial instability, and the thought of in some way failing was not easy to get through at first. Over these 5 years and counting I have realized how that lay off was the best thing that could have happened to me. That experience pushed me into doing what I love and what gives me energy. The clues were always there but for the sake of normalcy I suppressed dreams, goals, and my outrageous thoughts to be normal. Well, when normal made the choice for me it became the best time to explore those thoughts, dreams, and goals that were lying dormant while I was busy being normal. Then doors flew open for me to help children, women, non-profit organizations, and others. Connecting with individuals and forming relationships has been one of the greatest gifts in what I am privileged to do. Before this part of my journey I was more of a caterpillar versus the more purposeful and social butterfly that I have bloomed to be. I don’t hesitate to do the work to help and empower others no matter what my title or role consists. Not only does it give me energy but serving others is a beautiful expression of love and humility. I also rediscovered my passion for writing and started to living out my dream as a published author. So far this has been a journey for the books (no pun intended). I am embracing where I am now while looking forward to the next phases of my life and career. I am expecting more books, more opportunities, and most of all more lives being helped by messages that I have been chosen to give in some way.
Your push may not come packaged in the form of a lay off but a wise man once said, “the clue is in what gives you energy.” Explore that, discover it, and do what you love. Everything else will follow! I promise…
2014 Little Girls and Their Ponytails Book Tour. I was prepping to present the Beautiful and Wonderful Me Workshop!
I was standing in the mirror next to my colleague in a restaurant when I started to pick myself apart. I looked at my skin and I was still pleased with my complexion. I looked at my eyes. Then I looked down and noticed the grey cami under my red cardigan that did not match. Then noticed my love handles. While I would have liked to see less handles at that moment it was okay because of a few recent healthy lifestyle consistencies and results would be showing soon was what I was thinking. Then I made my way up to my hair which I recently decided to wear short and natural. I love it! However, old mindsets and negative defaults of insecurities attempted to push through my thoughts in a matter of seconds. To the point that I almost expressed negative thoughts to my colleague about myself. I was going to say that my hair is much curlier today. I wish that it was this way on yesterday but the humidity made it all crazy and flat. I need to trim it, curl it, shape it, color it, etc, etc, etc, blah, blah, blah! All of this was going through my mind within 30 seconds of looking in the mirror at the restaurant. Then before I could even begin to think of opening my mouth I glanced at her and I was reminded of her situation. She is seasoned in age, mother of several children, wife to a husband, and a new grandmother. Oh and she has breast cancer again. Yes. For the second time! She was actually on the way to receive her 5th cocktail of chemotherapy. So in the 30 seconds that I looked at all of these small nothingness of flaws in myself I was immediately reminded. Reminded to keep my thoughts focused on gratitude and being compassionate. I was reminded not to waste my thoughts on flaws in myself or others. She and I both stood in that same mirror. Me, with my short and natural hair that never curls the same and my love handles. Her, beautiful but forced by cancer to wear a wig after losing all of her hair due to chemo and dealing with poison running through her body just so that she can only hope to be well. In those 30 seconds I shifted my focus and made a decision to humble my thoughts and to admire her strength well over focusing on my small nothingness of flaws. Next time you attempt to pick yourself apart. Think about the circumstances of the person standing next to you. Choose gratitude and compassion. Don’t waste your thoughts on their flaws or yours…
Prayers for my friend and colleague to be well and to kick cancer’s butt again…Amen