Chosen by love. I think.

When I think of being chosen by love…I think specifically. I think of checking out TED Talks together and discussing topics related to our respective ambitions. He dreams. I think about his humor and laughing with me in the evening even if nothing went in his favor all day. He is optimistic. I think of his kindness and how he will show compassion when I’m wrong. He’s gracious. I think about his relationship with God and discussing personal realities of Christianity versus our humanity. He submits. I think about his imperfections and how we both desire to do things God’s way but also deal daily with the nips and tucks of the world’s way. He prays. I think about his work and how his purpose gives him energy. He lives. I think about him thinking of my well being above his own. He provides. I think about how he helps those in need even when no one is looking. He serves. I think about his value of family and his contribution to community. He leads. I think about this man who is imperfect but manages to love me above mine. He is wise. I think about our love surviving by grace. When I think of being chosen by love…I think specifically.

Love,

Katherine ūüíē

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I am who I post to be…

I am who I post to be:

I post my joyful pictures to drown out the times of depression.

I post good news to blot out the bad.

I post about love to kill the thoughts of hate.

I post the unity of my family to forget the times of division.

I post photos with friends to make up for moments of loneliness.

I post new and exciting opportunities to cancel out times I was never given a chance.

I post laughter filled moments to push away tearful times.

I post fun times as a reminder to enjoy life.

I post about God because He is love and He is life.

I post my life to encourage others…to find joy beyond melancholy moments.

 

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Today, I was happy…

Today, I was happy. Not to be confused with joy. Even in pain one can have joy. I experience joy but today I was happy. Just happy for no particular reason at all. I’m more aware of and appreciative of happy after experiencing melancholy more than usual. Melancholy likely due to grief but even in those moments, joy has pushed through, and every honest smile from within feels like victory. I win! I was happy today. I say that with sincere and deep gratitude with my whole heart. Sometimes sadness feels like it will last a lifetime and happiness only for a moment. So I choose to acknowledge her (happiness) whenever and however she chooses to arrive. Today, I was happy. Not to be confused with joy but I was happy for no particular reason at all. Happiness…

Be beautiful,

Katherine White

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Inequality Hurts. Self-Worth Heals…

Sexism and/or racism have been apart of my¬†story in every single job that I’ve had in some way. From corporations to non-profits, schools to churches, and of course in business. Its not always blatant and I am not always quiet about it but leadership and/or executives would likely excuse the behavior in the name of just doing business, the greater good of the company, or worse, in the name of Jesus (depending on the industry). I haven’t talked¬†about all of this much and I will go into detail at a later time. This is controversial but inequality exists. I experience it and I have a responsibility to use my experiences (both good and bad) to help other women. You don’t have to be the stereotypical version of your characteristics (woman, black, plus size -yep! that too) to be victimized by inequality. You can be strong or submissive, thin or big, have lighter skin or darker skin, degreed or non-degreed, and experience a myriad of issues related to inequality in the workplace and business. I am making a point to talk about this now (A) Because it is wrong & hurts ¬†(B) Because I hope to be a light of encouragement and empowerment beyond the cloud¬†of inequality. It is ridiculous¬†and reality that unfortunately is not changing today but¬†I want to offer some ideas that continue to help me along the way. While inequality hurts, self-worth heals.

Women working with¬†inequality in the workplace and/or in business…

-Pray

-Love yourself

-Know your worth

-Demand respect (they don’t have to like you but they do have to respect you)

-Live consistently in your truth (this will come in handy when lies are prevalent)

-Don’t take additional projects just to be impressive or¬†for recognition or “hoping” to¬†get a raise

-Take projects to do your job and to do it well even if you are not recognized (they may never say thank you)

-Only hope to get a raise when documentation is involved

-Do the job you are being paid to do

-Pray

-Help when you can

-Be clear on the difference between working (paid) and volunteering (unpaid)

-Don’t volunteer more than you work at the expense of your living, finances, family, sanity, or free time

-“I wish I could pay you what you’re worth” is an excuse not to pay you what you’re worth

-Gain clarity

-Know the expectations

-Leadership or management may never care or congratulate you. Be okay with that.

-Celebrate yourself

-List your accomplishments and share with those you love. Those who care.

-Decide on what you will do and what you will not do. Stick to that.

-Pray

-Don’t let anyone make decisions for you

-Be grateful for the truth of “No”

-You are better than a fallacy of “Yes”

-Don’t take less just because it is being offered

-Don’t expect more just because you need it

-Don’t change to make others comfortable

-Get what you need, until you get what you need

-Pray

-Do your job until you are ready for the next

-Learn even in unfair environments

-Know when it is time to leave

-Be wise

-Be bold

-You are always your own boss (you make your choices in life)

-Don’t let a title or position define you (this can crush you)

-Be true to who you are before and beyond titles

-All conversations are “on the record”

-Pray

-Documentation with signatures are final (a conversation does not seal the deal)

-Communicate clearly (in conversation and in writing…email counts)

-Be quiet when necessary

-Pray

-Create the work environment that you need to be successful

-Control your own joy

-Smile anyway

-Be calm

-Be kind

-Be professional

-You are enough

-Pray

I am still learning, still growing, accomplishing, and making mistakes. I have been afforded opportunities to work and grow in various industries. I have been truly blessed and I have gained wisdom. I hope these thoughts help some woman, college student, intern, or even little girl to be aware of inequalities but also to learn how to reach her goals beyond the differences.

Love yourself. Know your worth. You are enough.

Be Beautiful,

Katherine White

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