I am not my hair

“I am not my hair” but I am ask about my hair all of the time? When did you “go” natural? Why did you cut it? Why won’t you do this to it or like that?…I would rarely reveal my own natural hair although it has not been relaxed in 7ys. I would wear weave or braids 95% of the time. Defeated the purpose. It was true. I wasn’t my hair. I was any and everything but my hair. While I have been spreading the message of self-love I had been covering a part of myself. My hair. I love myself but for some time I had a love hate relationship with my hair. So one day I made a decision. A decision to be bold. To do what I wanted to do without concerning myself with what others might say or think. To wear my hair in the natural state I had to be drastic in my approach because I wanted to. I needed a change. I needed to see and feel my natural texture more often. I wanted to get to know my curls. Cutting my hair was freeing. In addition to boldness. It represented change and transition for me. My life literally changed after my hair decision. While “I am not my hair” I am a different woman since I cut my hair. For now I am enjoying it. My goal is not to be my hair but to be true to who I am. Hair. No hair. Braids or weave. Just me. As naturally and as authentically as I can be.

Be Beautiful,

Katherine White

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Inspiration

“I am not my hair” by the lovely India.Arie

Photo quote…Coco Chanel


I am enough…

I am enough. If people read or don’t read what I write. I am enough. I am enough and my life matters like black lives matter. Whether I have the money I need or the job that I want. I am enough. If I am respected in the workplace or disrespected by inequalities. I am enough. If my hair is relaxed or in its natural state. Long, short, or none at all. I am enough. If I weigh more or less. I am enough. With blemishes or clarity of skin. I am enough. If a man sees me or if he looks beyond me. I am enough. Whether they are proud of me or they hate me. I am enough. If I’m married or single. I am enough. I was divinely created by God to be enough in this life. I am enough because I know who I am. I am confident. I am enough. It took me some time but I had to learn that I am in fact enough after moments of trying to prove my enoughness by using ineffective methods. It was draining and life taking but to know that I am enough and live in that is energizing and life giving. I am enough. You are enough.

Be Beautiful,

Katherine White

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This blog post was inspired by Oprah’s posed question…”What has taken you the longest lesson to learn?”

Discover “it”…Do what you love!

5 years ago I was laid off from a corporate job and I am glad about it. Well, now I am. To be honest; the transition of losing a job, fear of financial instability, and the thought of in some way failing was not easy to get through at first. Over these 5 years and counting I have realized how that lay off was the best thing that could have happened to me. That experience pushed me into doing what I love and what gives me energy. The clues were always there but for the sake of normalcy I suppressed dreams, goals, and my outrageous thoughts to be normal. Well, when normal made the choice for me it became the best time to explore those thoughts, dreams, and goals that were lying dormant while I was busy being normal. Then doors flew open for me to help children, women, non-profit organizations, and others. Connecting with individuals and forming relationships has been one of the greatest gifts in what I am privileged to do. Before this part of my journey I was more of a caterpillar versus the more purposeful and social butterfly that I have bloomed to be. I don’t hesitate to do the work to help and empower others no matter what my title or role consists. Not only does it give me energy but serving others is a beautiful expression of love and humility. I also rediscovered my passion for writing and started to living out my dream as a published author. So far this has been a journey for the books (no pun intended). I am embracing where I am now while looking forward to the next phases of my life and career. I am expecting more books, more opportunities, and most of all more lives being helped by messages that I have been chosen to give in some way.

Your push may not come packaged in the form of a lay off but a wise man once said, “the clue is in what gives you energy.” Explore that, discover it, and do what you love. Everything else will follow! I promise…

Be Beautiful,

Katherine White

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2014 Little Girls and Their Ponytails Book Tour. I was prepping to present the Beautiful and Wonderful Me Workshop!

Everybody has the body to love…

When I vacation on the beach I often reflect and write. Connect with God and with nature. Plus I have a blast! On my last vacation I wasn’t at my lowest or even ideal weight but I decided some time ago to love myself consistently. When I’m up, down, long hair, big hair, no hair, etc. So I did. After I saw this photo, I posted it on social media and journaled. Define your own beauty. Don’t wait to be an expected standard of beauty , weight, height, or whatever. Improvement is great but don’t wait and miss out on how beautiful you are now.

 

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Be Beautiful,

Katherine White